Mizore, por t\u00eb mitura<\/p>\n
(Nj\u00eb qasje profesionale, n\u00eb holl\u00ebsi, pas ngjarjes shokuese n\u00eb Gjilan)<\/p>\n
Shkruan: Avni Rudaku<\/p>\n
T\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit, n\u00eb raport me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, ndahen n\u00eb tri kategori kryesore: tipa social\u00eb (t\u00eb shoq\u00ebruesh\u00ebm me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, nuk rrin\u00eb dot vet\u00ebm), tipa asocial\u00eb (t\u00eb pashoq\u00ebruesh\u00ebm, nuk ndjejn\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nd\u00ebrveprim social, m\u00eb t\u00eb mbyllur nga vet\u00eb natyra, por jo kund\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve) dhe tipa antisocial\u00eb (kund\u00ebr normave shoq\u00ebrore e ligjore, agresor\u00eb, l\u00ebndues ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve). Nj\u00eb video e publikuar s\u00eb fundi p\u00ebr dhun\u00ebn e bashk\u00ebmoshatareve n\u00eb grup ndaj nj\u00eb t\u00eb miture n\u00eb Gjilan, ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me sjellje antisociale. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb u trondit\u00ebm, u mllefos\u00ebm dhe lloj-lloj reagimesh b\u00ebm\u00eb ndaj videos s\u00eb publikuar, ku shihet n\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb braktisur n\u00eb Gjilan e me ndri\u00e7im celular\u00ebsh, teksa disa vajza tinejxhere rrahin brutalisht nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb bashk\u00ebmoshatare, duke e akuzuar q\u00eb \u201cajo ka folur p\u00ebr to\u201d (thashethema koti), duke e l\u00ebnduar fizikisht, duke e r\u00ebnduar psikologjikisht, duke e torturuar, duke e shpotitur, ngacmuar, dhe p\u00ebr ta arritur m\u00eb tej kulmin, duke e regjistruar ngjarjen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb audio-vizuele, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar nga viktima te publiku i gjer\u00eb, p\u00ebr dokumentim t\u00eb sjelljes antisociale. K\u00ebto sjellje jan\u00eb t\u00eb njohura edhe si \u201cmobing grupor\u201d, ose \u201cbulliz\u00ebm grupor\u201d, por si\u00e7 do ta argumentoj, kjo ndodhi m\u00eb s\u00eb af\u00ebrmi i shkon tortur\u00ebs, pasi p\u00ebrfshihet dhuna e r\u00ebnd\u00eb fizike, verbale, psikologjike; fyerjet nga m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebndat, privimi nga liria, trajtimi mizor, k\u00ebrc\u00ebnime, shantazhe, arg\u00ebtim sadistik, hakmarrje \u00e7njer\u00ebzore etj. Edhe n\u00eb rastet m\u00eb ekstreme t\u00eb luft\u00ebs, pengmarrjes, ka rregulla kur mbahet dikush e shtr\u00ebnguar fizikisht, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb rastin n\u00eb Gjilan, tinejxheret nuk respektojn\u00eb asnj\u00eb kod t\u00eb pashkruar e t\u00eb shkruar njer\u00ebzor. Sjelljet e tyre ishte mizore, por ishin t\u00eb mitura. Prandaj, edhe diskutimi b\u00ebhet gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb rastit, sepse ato t\u00eb mitura kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr edukim, rehabilitim dhe risocializim me programe sistematike, monitorim t\u00eb sjelljes, terapi t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit mendor, p\u00ebr shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, parandalim recidivizmi n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, e jo nd\u00ebshkime, lin\u00e7ime, publikime, hakmarrje, dhun\u00eb virtuale, izolim ekstrem. Masat e ashpra nuk kan\u00eb rezultuar shpesh me sukses n\u00eb uljen e krimeve, ose parandalimin e recidivizmit. Edhe di\u00e7ka: shum\u00eb sjellje mizore t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl para luft\u00ebs s\u00eb vitit 1999, t\u00eb bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebve t\u00eb mi, qoft\u00eb ndaj njer\u00ebzve, qoft\u00eb ndaj kafsh\u00ebve, qoft\u00eb ndaj natyr\u00ebs, i kam par\u00eb me syt\u00eb e mi, por at\u00ebbot\u00eb, nuk kishte celular\u00eb, rrjete sociale, p\u00ebr t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga m\u00ebhalla e vog\u00ebl n\u00eb agor\u00eb e forum p\u00ebr audienc\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb, dhe tash stigmatizimi mund t\u00eb mos shlyhet kurr\u00eb nga makinat e k\u00ebrkimit n\u00eb internet e rrjete sociale. Dhe ata f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb dikursh\u00ebm mizor\u00eb, i njoh, se qyteti \u00ebsht\u00eb i vog\u00ebl, dhe sot jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb mir\u00eb, me integritet, profesionist\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebshmuar n\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tyre etj. Pra, ka shpres\u00eb, ve\u00e7mas f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vegj\u00ebl, q\u00eb ende nuk e kan\u00eb form\u00ebsuar n\u00eb plot\u00ebni, personalitetin e tyre, dhe merren masa t\u00eb intervenimit t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb, sistematik e profesional. Jan\u00eb ende axhami, t\u00eb papjekur, dhe di\u00e7ka ka shkuar shum\u00eb keq, n\u00eb sjellje antisociale, dhe duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi institucionalisht, t\u2019i ndihmojm\u00eb p\u00ebr drejtim krejt\u00ebsisht tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebr sjellje prosociale. Natyrisht, shkenca e njeh edhe \u00c7rregullimin e Personalitetit Antisocial, nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtohen gjasat p\u00ebr raste t\u00eb tilla, madje n\u00ebse nuk ka intervenime t\u00eb hershme, tiparet e tilla v\u00ebshtir\u00eb zbehen ose zbuten, apo ekziston rreziku real n\u00eb form\u00ebsimin e \u00c7rregullimit t\u00eb Personalitetit Antisocial si i rritur, por nuk mund t\u00eb diagnostifikohet para mosh\u00ebs 18 vje\u00e7, nuk etiketohen f\u00ebmij\u00ebt sociopat\u00eb ose psikopat\u00eb, mb\u00ebshtetur nga manuali m\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb bot\u00eb, Manuali Diagnostikues dhe Statistikor i \u00c7rregullimeve Mendore i Shoqat\u00ebs Amerikane t\u00eb Psikiatris\u00eb, si\u00e7 do ta shohim n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb analiz\u00eb. Gjithashtu, p\u00ebr t\u2019i ikur etiketimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve me k\u00ebto diagnoza, p\u00ebrdoren togfjal\u00ebshat si, \u201c\u00e7rregullim i sjelljes\u201d, kur f\u00ebmija tregon model t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur t\u00eb shkeljes s\u00eb normave shoq\u00ebrore, si dhun\u00eb, g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr, munges\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkimfaljes, ose \u201cshenja t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebris\u00eb emocionale\u201d, kur f\u00ebmija nuk ka empati, nuk k\u00ebrkon falje etj.<\/p>\n
Nuk ishte bulliz\u00ebm, por \u201ctortur\u00eb civile\u201d<\/p>\n
Ajo q\u00eb shohim n\u00eb video, n\u00eb q\u00ebllim, p\u00ebrmbajtje, sjellje, \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201ctortur\u00eb civile\u201d. Termi \u201ctortur\u00eb\u201d sipas Konvent\u00ebs kund\u00ebr Tortur\u00ebs dhe Trajtimeve ose Nd\u00ebshkimeve t\u00eb Tjera Mizore, \u00c7njer\u00ebzore ose Posht\u00ebruese, \u201cn\u00ebnkupton \u00e7do akt me an\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb cilit nj\u00eb personi i shkaktohet q\u00ebllimisht dhimbje ose vuajtje e fort\u00eb, qoft\u00eb fizike ose mendore, p\u00ebr q\u00ebllime t\u00eb tilla si marrja prej tij ose nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb tret\u00eb informacioni ose nj\u00eb rr\u00ebfimi, nd\u00ebshkimi i tij p\u00ebr nj\u00eb veprim q\u00eb ai ose nj\u00eb person i tret\u00eb ka kryer ose dyshohet se e ka kryer, ose frik\u00ebsimi ose shtr\u00ebngimi i tij ose i nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb tret\u00eb, ose p\u00ebr \u00e7do arsye t\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb diskriminim t\u00eb \u00e7do lloji, kur nj\u00eb dhimbje ose vuajtje e till\u00eb shkaktohet nga ose me nxitjen e ose me p\u00eblqimin ose pranimin e nj\u00eb zyrtari publik ose nj\u00eb personi tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb vepron n\u00eb nj\u00eb cil\u00ebsi zyrtare.\u201d (Konventa kund\u00ebr Tortur\u00ebs dhe Trajtimeve ose Nd\u00ebshkimeve t\u00eb Tjera Mizore, \u00c7njer\u00ebzore ose Posht\u00ebruese, neni 1, 1987, n\u00eb linkun: https:\/\/www.ohchr.org\/sites\/default\/files\/cat.pdf)<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr shkak se tortura nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kryer nga zyrtar\u00eb ose n\u00eb cil\u00ebsin\u00eb zyrtare, Konventa merret me obligimet e shteteve, q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb parandalojn\u00eb \u00e7far\u00ebdo torture, madje te neni 16 i Konvent\u00ebs, shteti merr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi p\u00ebr parandalimin e \u00e7far\u00ebdo torture q\u00eb ndodh nga civil\u00ebt dhe merr obligime p\u00ebr t\u00eb zbatuar drejt\u00ebsin\u00eb me nd\u00ebshkime sa her\u00eb t\u00eb shfaqet tortura si akt \u00e7njer\u00ebzor. Sidoqoft\u00eb, ajo q\u00eb e shohim n\u00eb video nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb bulliz\u00ebm, sepse ngacmim n\u00ebnkupton \u00e7do shqet\u00ebsim, bezdisje, me fjal\u00eb, gjeste, veprime dhe mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nga m\u00eb i lehti deri te m\u00eb i r\u00ebndi, nd\u00ebrsa tortura \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb, \u00e7njer\u00ebzore, posht\u00ebruese, mizore. Prandaj, pavar\u00ebsisht shkall\u00ebs m\u00eb t\u00eb ul\u00ebt t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb si t\u00eb mitura me \u00e7do ligj n\u00eb bot\u00eb, norm\u00eb shoq\u00ebrore e kulturore, t\u00eb miturat n\u00eb q\u00ebllim, p\u00ebrmbajtje e sjellje, kan\u00eb kryer tortur\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse nuk hyn n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb kategori juridike t\u00eb konventave nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare, q\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb me shtetet dhe zyrtar\u00ebt. Prandaj, p\u00ebr ta dalluar tortur\u00ebn sipas Konvent\u00ebs, nga ajo q\u00eb kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb vajzat, do ta quaja \u201ctortur\u00eb private\u201d, ose \u201ctortur\u00eb civile\u201d, dhe p\u00ebrderisa ka ndodhur n\u00eb grup t\u00eb miturash, at\u00ebher\u00eb edhe \u201ctortur\u00eb civile grupore\u201d, ose \u201ctortur\u00eb civile n\u00eb grup\u201d. P\u00ebr shkak se t\u00eb miturat q\u00eb kan\u00eb kryer tortur\u00ebn ndaj bashk\u00ebmoshatares s\u00eb tyre, e kan\u00eb xhiruar me video dhe video ka qarkulluar jo vet\u00ebm te viktima e prind\u00ebrit e saj, por n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn publike, ajo mund t\u00eb quhet edhe \u201ctortur\u00eb publike\u201d, \u00e7ka e b\u00ebn ngjarjen edhe m\u00eb mizore. Sidoqoft\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb dhun\u00eb mizore, krejt e ngjashme me tortur\u00ebn, por juridikisht nuk njihet si tortur\u00eb, dhe nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me konceptin e tortur\u00ebs nga Konventa. Tortura civile nga ajo shtet\u00ebrore ose zyrtare, dallon edhe nga pushteti. Tortura nga organet e shtetit vjen nga t\u00eb pushtetshmit, nd\u00ebrsa ajo civile jo me at\u00eb pushtet, ndon\u00ebse jo pa fuqi fizike p\u00ebr kontroll t\u00eb viktim\u00ebs dhe organizim n\u00eb grup. Madje, nga rr\u00ebfimi p\u00ebr ngjarjen, ka analogji edhe me rr\u00ebmbim e kidnapim, se si e kan\u00eb sjell\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e braktisur, vet\u00eb viktim\u00ebn, p\u00ebrmes shoqes s\u00eb saj. Megjithat\u00eb, shkurtimisht: video tregoi p\u00ebr sjellje mizore, por ishin t\u00eb mitura, dhe n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb nuk kualifikohet ve\u00e7 bulliz\u00ebm, por as nuk kualifikohet si tortur\u00eb. N\u00eb ligje as nuk ka tortur\u00eb civile, as private, por vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtje diskursi t\u00eb nivelit t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs, po p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb gjej analogji. Madje, n\u00ebse do t\u00eb kualifikohej si tortur\u00eb, si shkaktim i dhembjes s\u00eb q\u00ebllimshme, do t\u00eb ishte vet\u00ebm nga personat zyrtar\u00eb q\u00eb e kan\u00eb ndalur ose e kan\u00eb n\u00ebn kontroll n\u00eb cil\u00ebsin\u00eb zyrtare, por jo p\u00ebr civil\u00ebt, dhe sipas Kodit Penal t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs, tortura do t\u00eb hynte n\u00eb krime kund\u00ebr njer\u00ebzimit. Shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb, apo jo?! Kodi Penal parasheh p\u00ebr moshat me p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi penale, l\u00ebndimin e leht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb trupor, pjes\u00ebmarrja n\u00eb rrahje, mosdh\u00ebnia e ndihm\u00ebs; privim i kund\u00ebrligjsh\u00ebm i liris\u00eb jo, sepse e kan\u00eb liruar at\u00eb nat\u00eb, e jo mbajtur p\u00ebr 15 dit\u00eb si\u00e7 e parasheh Kodi, ngacmimi etj. Ajo q\u00eb dua t\u00eb theksoj \u00ebsht\u00eb se, sjellja antisociale me t\u00eb mitur\u00ebn nga vet\u00eb t\u00eb miturat \u00ebsht\u00eb dhun\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb, e papranueshme, dhe duhet qasje serioze, urgjente, sistematike, profesionale dhe gjith\u00ebp\u00ebrfshir\u00ebse. E sidomos b\u00ebhet m\u00eb urgjente dhe m\u00eb serioze, ky intervenim, q\u00eb jan\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb t\u00eb miturat dhe kan\u00eb trajtim t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb kudo n\u00eb bot\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Viktima dhe familja<\/p>\n
Dhembshuria m\u00eb e madhe mbetet n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb ndaj vet\u00eb viktim\u00ebs. Viktima p\u00ebrjeton jo vet\u00ebm l\u00ebndime fizike, trupore, por edhe traumatizohet, posht\u00ebrohet n\u00eb grup e publikisht dhe shtr\u00ebngohet \u00e7njer\u00ebzisht. Ajo p\u00ebson d\u00ebme afatgjata, traum\u00eb, humbje totale t\u00eb besimit tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, r\u00ebnie drastike t\u00eb vet\u00ebbesimit, vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimit, vet\u00ebrespektit; ankth, depresion, izolim, vetmi, pasoja p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin fizik, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie sociale me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, efekte n\u00eb suksesin n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe arritjet akademike, rreziqe t\u00eb panum\u00ebrta etj. Prandaj, krejt v\u00ebmendja duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb te viktima, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. Gjithashtu, familja e viktim\u00ebs, ve\u00e7mas prind\u00ebrit, jan\u00eb t\u00eb shokuar, t\u00eb thyer shpirt\u00ebrisht, me k\u00ebt\u00eb tragjedi. Duhet mb\u00ebshtetje emocionale, terapi individuale e familjare, t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb siguruara nga shteti e Komuna e Gjilanit. Duhet angazhim i shkoll\u00ebs, drejtoris\u00eb, m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebn\u00ebsve, bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebve p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrkrahur pas tragjedis\u00eb. Familja e viktim\u00ebs si pal\u00eb e d\u00ebmtuar, duhet t\u00eb kompensohet edhe materialisht sipas ligjeve n\u00eb fuqi. Prind\u00ebrit, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb kujdesit intensiv dhe sistematik q\u00eb duhen ta ken\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn viktim\u00eb, n\u00ebse jan\u00eb t\u00eb angazhuar n\u00eb sektorin publik, t\u00eb ken\u00eb pushim deri n\u00eb nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb arsyeshme, me pages\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb. N\u00ebse jan\u00eb n\u00eb sektorin privat, apo t\u00eb vet\u00ebpun\u00ebsuar, duhet gjithashtu t\u00eb ket\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje nga vet\u00eb pun\u00ebdh\u00ebn\u00ebsi privat dhe komuna e shteti. F\u00ebmija ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb se kurdoher\u00eb, nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr prani fizike e psikologjike t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve. F\u00ebmija duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihet n\u00eb aktivitete kulturore, sportive, var\u00ebsisht nga talenti e hobi i saj, ecje n\u00eb natyr\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u2019u integruar n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. E mbijetuara e dhun\u00ebs grupore t\u00eb tinejxhereve, duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrkrahet m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti, nga t\u00eb gjith\u00eb dhe sistematikisht. M\u00eb s\u00eb shumti institucionalisht, e shoq\u00ebrisht.<\/p>\n
Dhuna e tinejxhereve<\/p>\n
N\u00eb krejt bot\u00ebn, tinejxher\u00ebt, p\u00ebr shkak se ende nuk i kan\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur as 18 vje\u00e7, trajtohen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, nga shteti, drejt\u00ebsia dhe \u00e7do institucion tjet\u00ebr. Presupozohet q\u00eb tinejxher\u00ebt, ve\u00e7mas 13-14 vje\u00e7aret, duke u ballafaquar me nj\u00eb ndryshim t\u00eb theksuar fizik, fiziologjik, hormonal, social e psikologjik, ato meritojn\u00eb kujdes specifik ve\u00e7mas n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mosh\u00eb puberteti. Fillojn\u00eb ta njohin identitetin personal e me mund\u00ebsi edhe t\u00eb krizave t\u00eb identitetit, merakosen me tepri p\u00ebr dukjen fizike, lidhen m\u00eb shum\u00eb me shoqet, bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebt, duke u ndikuar tejmase prej tyre. Jan\u00eb m\u00eb labile emocionalisht, sa jan\u00eb n\u00eb g\u00ebzim, mund t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebrim. Krijojn\u00eb ndjenja t\u00eb forta p\u00ebr identitetin social e grupor. Kan\u00eb shum\u00eb sfida se si i kontrollojn\u00eb dhe menaxhojn\u00eb pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb p\u00ebr veten e tyre n\u00eb m\u00ebsime, p\u00ebr v\u00ebmendje sociale, zem\u00ebrimin etj. Kan\u00eb shum\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u2019i ndajn\u00eb mendimet, shqet\u00ebsimet e tyre me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, sepse gjithmon\u00eb e kan\u00eb nj\u00eb bindje \u201cnuk na kupton neve askush\u201d. Kryesisht ndajn\u00eb privat\u00ebsi me shoqet, e m\u00eb pak me familjen, n\u00ebse nuk rriten me komunikim m\u00eb demokratik brenda sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. K\u00ebrkojn\u00eb me ngulm m\u00eb shum\u00eb pavar\u00ebsi, ve\u00e7mas liri p\u00ebr aktivitete, koh\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb e q\u00ebndrim jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, ndon\u00ebse duhet gradualisht ta fitojn\u00eb \u201c17-Shkurtin e tyre\u201d, sepse ende nuk e kan\u00eb maturacionin e plot\u00eb fizik, fiziologjik, seksual, kognitiv, emocional, social dhe ekonomik. Fillojn\u00eb ve\u00e7mas me dashurit\u00eb e para, flirtimin dhe lidhjet e para emocionale. B\u00ebhen me kok\u00ebforta n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjet e drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb e padrejt\u00ebsis\u00eb, qysh i konceptojn\u00eb vet\u00eb ato. Provojn\u00eb stile t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb veshjes, dukjes, paraqitjes publike. Kan\u00eb ndryshime radikale hormonale, rritje t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb t\u00eb karakteristikave primare seksuale dhe ato sekondare, duke pasur nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb p\u00ebr edukim seksual e sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsor, por edhe kulturor e psikologjik. Me rritjen e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb medieve sociale, ve\u00e7mas SnapChat-tit, Instagramit, TikTok-ut, gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb nj\u00eb fenomen t\u00eb quajtur FOMO (Frika se po l\u00eb di\u00e7ka mangut), duke vuajtur shpesh q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb ato \u00e7aste duke u k\u00ebnaqur si\u00e7 po k\u00ebnaqen t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, vazhdimisht krahasojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre \u201ctmerr\u201d, me jet\u00ebn e \u201clumtur\u201d t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve n\u00eb postime publike. Vuajn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb virale, t\u00eb ndjekura, t\u00eb p\u00eblqyera e me komente pozitive. Shumica nuk arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb \u201clumturohen\u201d nga dopamina t\u00eb rrejshme, skrroli absurd aq shum\u00eb or\u00ebsh, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr gjum\u00eb t\u00eb rregullt, munges\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrimi n\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb dobishme shkollore e sociale, ngarendje p\u00ebr postime me theks t\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebm dukjen fizike me aq shum\u00eb shkrepje p\u00ebr nj\u00eb foto q\u00eb menduakan se mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse etj. Zhvillojn\u00eb shum\u00eb komplekse mbi fizikusin, kapacitetet sociale e kognitive etj. Edhe me Kodin e Gazetaris\u00eb, edhe me Kodin Nr. 06\/L-006 T\u00cb DREJT\u00cbSIS\u00cb P\u00cbR T\u00cb MITUR n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, trajtohen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse kan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi penale etj.<\/p>\n
Cili Kod Etik u shkel gjat\u00eb raportimit t\u00eb rastit?<\/p>\n
Kodi Etik i Mediave t\u00eb Shkruara t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs, Kapitulli VI, \u00ebsht\u00eb shkelur t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht, nga disa medie kosovare dhe faqe private t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoruesve online. Duhet urgjentisht ankes\u00eb n\u00eb KMSHK. Ja linku p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e t\u00eb miturave, ku mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ankesa online dhe jam i sigurt se miratohet: https:\/\/presscouncil-ks.org\/?page_id=97
\nMbrojtja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe t\u00eb miturve, ndalon \u00e7far\u00ebdo publikimi t\u00eb fotografis\u00eb, qoft\u00eb si viktima, qoft\u00eb si d\u00ebshmitare, qoft\u00eb me ose pa p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi penale p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs:
\n1. Gazetar\u00ebt nuk do t\u00eb duhej t\u00eb intervistojn\u00eb apo t\u00eb fotografojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7are rreth \u00e7\u00ebshtjeve t\u00eb cilat b\u00ebjn\u00eb fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr familjen e tyre, pa p\u00eblqimin e prindit apo t\u00eb ndonj\u00eb t\u00eb rrituri i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn.
\n2. Gazetat, portalet dhe agjensit\u00eb e lajmeve n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb identifikojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7are t\u00eb cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrzier n\u00eb vepra penale, qoft\u00eb si d\u00ebshmitar\u00eb, apo t\u00eb pandehur.
\n3. Trajtimi i rr\u00ebfimeve mbi tragjedit\u00eb personale duhet t\u00eb zhvillohet me kujdes, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ndaj individ\u00ebve t\u00eb prekur me tragjedi duhet pasur qasje mir\u00ebkuptimi dhe diskrecioni.\u201d (KMSHK, \u201cKodi i Mediave t\u00eb Shkruara t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs\u201d, Prishtin\u00eb, n\u00eb linkun: https:\/\/agk-ks.org\/site\/assets\/files\/2614\/press-code-for-kosovo_alb_1.pdf)
\nEdhe sot, shum\u00eb medie i kan\u00eb t\u00eb postuara fotografit\u00eb e viktim\u00ebs dhe tinejxhereve q\u00eb e d\u00ebmtuan at\u00eb. Menj\u00ebher\u00eb duhet larguar ato. As p\u00ebrdoruesit privat\u00eb nuk duhet t\u2019i mbajn\u00eb n\u00eb celular\u00ebt e tyre dhe as t\u2019i ndajn\u00eb me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
Kodi i Drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb Miturit dhe dy bashk\u00ebpjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebset n\u00ebn 14 vjet<\/p>\n
Me Kodin e Drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb Miturit n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00eb konsiderohet \u00e7do person q\u00eb nuk i ka mbushur 18 vjet; i mitur \u00e7do person q\u00eb i ka arritur 14 vjet, por nuk i ka mbushur 18 vjet. Pastaj, t\u00eb miturit ndahen n\u00eb: i mitur i ri q\u00eb i ka mbushur 14 vjet, por ende nuk i ka mbushur 16 vjet, dhe i mitur i rritur q\u00eb i ka mbushur 16 vjet, por nuk i ka mbushur 18 vje\u00e7. N\u00ebse vepra penale ka ndodhur n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn 14 vjet, qoft\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr 1 dit\u00eb t\u00eb vetme, nuk llogariten as t\u00eb mitura, pra mosh\u00eb pa p\u00ebrgegj\u00ebsi penale. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb kod, f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb penale \u00ebsht\u00eb f\u00ebmiu i cili n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e kryerjes s\u00eb vepr\u00ebs penale nuk i ka mbushur 14 vjet. Neni 8, Procedura e mbrojtjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb penale, specifikon se p\u00ebr n\u00ebn 14 vje\u00e7, nuk fillon as procedura gjyq\u00ebsore, madje pushon procedura gjyq\u00ebsore, sipas dokumenteve t\u00eb tjera ligjore, sapo prokurori p\u00ebr t\u00eb mitur informohet p\u00ebr mosh\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, si dhe menj\u00ebher\u00eb Organi i Kujdestaris\u00eb njoftohet p\u00ebr rastin nga policia, pas konsultimit me prokurorin e shtetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb mitur. Organi i Kujdestari n\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunim edhe me institucionet e tjera trajton kryer\u00ebset e veprave penale n\u00ebn 14 vje\u00e7. N\u00eb afat jo m\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb se 7 dit\u00eb, e n\u00eb raste urgjente si kjo n\u00eb Gjilan, jo m\u00eb von\u00eb se 24 or\u00eb, Organi i Kujdestaris\u00eb, duhet nd\u00ebrmarr\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha masat urgjente p\u00ebr trajtimin dhe mbrojtjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn 14 vje\u00e7. Masa urgjente p\u00ebrfundon n\u00eb \u00e7astin kur Organi i Kujdestaris\u00eb p\u00ebrpilon programin e rregullt p\u00ebr mbrojtje dhe trajtim. (KODI NR. 06\/L-006 I DREJT\u00cbSIS\u00cb P\u00cbR T\u00cb MITUR, n\u00eb linkun: https:\/\/gzk.rks-gov.net\/ActDocumentDetail.aspx?ActID=18019)<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrve\u00e7 Kodit, \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe Udh\u00ebzimi administrativ (QRK)-nr. 01\/2021 – P\u00ebr mbrojtjen dhe trajtimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve kryer\u00ebs t\u00eb veprave penale n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb penale, f\u00ebmija n\u00ebn 14 vje\u00e7 nuk i n\u00ebnshtrohet as procedur\u00ebs gjyq\u00ebsore, as d\u00ebnimit me burg, as futjes n\u00eb institucion tjet\u00ebr nd\u00ebshkimor, as nuk do t\u00eb ket\u00eb diskriminim direkt ose indirekt pavar\u00ebsisht shkall\u00ebs s\u00eb sjelljes antisociale, apo sjelljeve t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb papranueshme. Gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb procesit, menaxheri i rastit, punon sipas parimit, nj\u00eb familje, nj\u00eb program, nj\u00eb ekip. Madje, as d\u00ebrgimi n\u00eb stacion policor p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e stigmatizuar (Neni 8, paragrafi 1), apo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb tep\u00ebr t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr (paragrafi 4), madje edhe transporti n\u00eb stacion policor, duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ndaras me t\u00eb rriturit. Njoftohet prindi, kujdestari e QPS. Pas marrjeve s\u00eb informatave, menj\u00ebher\u00eb lirohet f\u00ebmija dhe e shoq\u00ebrojn\u00eb prindi, kujdestari e zyrtar\u00ebt e sh\u00ebrbimeve sociale. Nuk guxon asnj\u00eb informat\u00eb konfidenciale t\u00eb jepet p\u00ebr pal\u00ebt e treta ose asnj\u00eb publikim q\u00eb shpie n\u00eb identifikimin se kush jan\u00eb, si\u00e7 ka ndodhur n\u00eb disa medie t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs, duke u publikuar fotot dhe ende disa prej tyre nuk jan\u00eb hequr nga regjistri publik online. Pastaj, f\u00ebmij\u00ebs i sigurohet psikologu specialist i licencuar nga Ministria e Sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsis\u00eb, kontrolli mjek\u00ebsor etj. Institucionet e ndihmojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u2019u integruar n\u00eb familje, e n\u00eb asnj\u00eb rrethan\u00eb p\u00ebr ta le\u00e7itur familja. Vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse ka rrezik p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn brenda familjes, mund t\u00eb hiqet e drejta e kujdestaris\u00eb nga prind\u00ebrit, madje as pa p\u00eblqimin e prind\u00ebrve dhe gjykata. QPS e ka p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr ta asistuar familjen p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Gjat\u00eb vler\u00ebsimit gjith\u00ebp\u00ebrfshir\u00ebs profesional, nuk vler\u00ebsohet vepra q\u00eb e kan\u00eb shkaktuar, por nevojat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Ky vler\u00ebsim b\u00ebhet nga Organi i Kujdestaris\u00eb, me institucionet sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore, edukative, OJQ, ekspert\u00eb. Sht\u00ebpit\u00eb p\u00ebr mbrojtjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs pran\u00eb QPS-s\u00eb, ofrojn\u00eb sh\u00ebrbime emergjente p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, por jo m\u00eb gjat\u00eb se 3 dit\u00eb. N\u00ebse familja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ambient i p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm, at\u00ebher\u00eb Organi i Kujdestaris\u00eb ose e vendos f\u00ebmij\u00ebn n\u00eb strehim familjar, ose strehim rezidencial. Strehimi familjar \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi, b\u00ebhet tek t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit familjar\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, ose familje strehuese e licencuar nga ministria p\u00ebrkat\u00ebse. N\u00eb rastin n\u00eb fjal\u00eb, Komuna e Gjilanit ka p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi ligjore p\u00ebr sigurimin e t\u00eb gjitha sh\u00ebrbimeve. P\u00ebr secilin f\u00ebmij\u00eb, caktohet menaxheri i rastit, i cili duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb pun\u00ebtor i QPS-s\u00eb n\u00eb Gjilan, madje nuk mund t\u00eb ngarkohet me m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 6 raste aktive n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb, q\u00eb i bie n\u00eb rastin e r\u00ebnd\u00eb n\u00eb Gjilan, mund t\u2019i marr\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha vajzat e grupit ose ve\u00e7 ato n\u00ebn 14 vje\u00e7, duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb programin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, me plan individual etj. Gjithashtu, Udh\u00ebzimi Administrativ parasheh nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebsimin nd\u00ebrmjet bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebve. Duke u informuar p\u00ebr rastin, nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebsimi \u00ebsht\u00eb tejet i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb edhe n\u00eb mes t\u00eb prindit t\u00eb viktim\u00ebs dhe prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb kryer\u00ebsve t\u00eb vepr\u00ebs penale pa p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi penale, sepse ajo q\u00eb ka ndodhur, ende ka sfida p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrballuar, prandaj duhet kujdes i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb qoft\u00eb n\u00eb nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebsimin e bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebve, qoft\u00eb t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve. Ky nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebsim i bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebve mund t\u00eb parashihet n\u00eb raste m\u00eb t\u00eb lehta, por p\u00ebr ndodhin\u00eb n\u00eb Gjilan, e dram\u00eb komb\u00ebtare kudo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar si rast nga mediet, \u00ebsht\u00eb tejet i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe duhet pasur shum\u00eb kujdes n\u00eb qasje. Madje, gjykuar nga rasti, nuk do ta rekomandoja fare nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebsimin nga prokurori p\u00ebr t\u00eb miturit, menaxheri i rastit, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb natyr\u00ebs s\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb penale, pavar\u00ebsisht mosh\u00ebs. (Shih: https:\/\/gzk.rks-gov.net\/ActDetail.aspx?ActID=36551)<\/p>\n
Kodi i Drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb Miturit dhe bashk\u00ebpjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebset e tjera 14-vje\u00e7are<\/p>\n
Bashk\u00ebpjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebset tinejxhere n\u00eb grup, duke e rrahur, fyer e ngacmuar bashk\u00ebmoshataren e tyre, sipas Kodit t\u00eb Drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb Miturit, konsiderohen t\u00eb mitura t\u00eb reja, pasi kan\u00eb arritur mosh\u00ebn 14 vjet, qoft\u00eb edhe t\u00eb lindura n\u00eb janar, apo edhe korrik t\u00eb k\u00ebtij viti. Me Nenin 12, sipas k\u00ebtij kodi, d\u00ebnimet q\u00eb mund t\u00eb shqiptohen ndaj t\u00eb miturve jan\u00eb: gjoba, urdhri p\u00ebr pun\u00eb n\u00eb dobi t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme dhe burgimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb mitur, por d\u00ebnimi nuk mund t\u2019i shqiptohet t\u00eb miturit i cili ka qen\u00eb n\u00ebn mosh\u00ebn gjasht\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb (16) vjet n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e kryerjes se vepr\u00ebs penale. Pra, as p\u00ebr k\u00ebto t\u00eb miturat e tjera, nuk ka d\u00ebnim, por edukim, rehabilitim dhe risocializim. Koh\u00ebzgjatja e \u00e7far\u00ebdo mase apo d\u00ebnimi t\u00eb shqiptuar duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktohet me vendim t\u00eb gjykat\u00ebs n\u00eb pajtim me k\u00ebt\u00eb Kod. Kur gjykata cakton d\u00ebnimin me burgim p\u00ebr t\u00eb mitur deri n\u00eb dy (2) vjet ose mas\u00ebn e d\u00ebrgimit n\u00eb institucion edukativo-korrektues deri n\u00eb dy (2) vjet, mund t\u00eb shqiptoj\u00eb d\u00ebnimin me kusht n\u00eb pajtim me Kodin Penal t\u00eb Republik\u00ebs s\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs.\u201d (KODI NR. 06\/L-006 I DREJT\u00cbSIS\u00cb P\u00cbR T\u00cb MITUR, n\u00eb linkun: https:\/\/gzk.rks-gov.net\/ActDocumentDetail.aspx?ActID=18019)<\/p>\n
T\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb miturat jan\u00eb \u201cviktima\u201d<\/p>\n
Kur shohim sjellje t\u00eb tilla t\u00eb t\u00eb miturave, p\u00ebr shkak se nuk aplikohet nd\u00ebshkimi, d\u00ebnimi, burgimi, por edukimi dhe rehabilitimi, ato mund t\u00eb konsiderohen edhe t\u00eb gjitha viktima dhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi duhet t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, ve\u00e7mas prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb kan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb n\u00ebn 18 vjet. N\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri demokratike, p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia gjithmon\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb individuale. Ato jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe familja, shkolla, shteti, gjithashtu mbahen p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebse p\u00ebr rrethanat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt po ballafaqohen me ekspozim t\u00eb tepruar n\u00eb rrjete sociale, ku dhuna, xhelozia, inati, modelet sharlatane publike, influencer\u00eb, blloger\u00eb, vlloger\u00eb, kan\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonsh\u00ebm n\u00eb modelimin e sjelljeve t\u00eb dhunshme dhe p\u00ebrforcimin e tyre, prandaj, n\u00eb nj\u00eb kuptim f\u00ebmij\u00ebt pavar\u00ebsisht rolit si kryer\u00ebs t\u00eb vepr\u00ebs penale ose viktim\u00eb, jan\u00eb viktima t\u00eb sistemit \u00e7orientues, edukimit t\u00eb dob\u00ebt, sistemit \u00e7orodit\u00ebs t\u00eb vlerave shoq\u00ebrore, sistemit politik, krizave ekonomike familjare, menaxhimit katastrofal t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb teknologjis\u00eb etj. Gjithashtu, imagjinoni prind\u00ebrit e k\u00ebtyre t\u00eb miturave, dyt\u00eb mund t\u00eb punojn\u00eb, angazhohen n\u00eb pun\u00eb, st\u00ebrlodhen, familjet jan\u00eb t\u00eb vogla, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt shpesh rrin\u00eb vet\u00ebm, or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra para celularit dhe lloj-lloj algoritmit, duke e v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik potencial \u00e7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Nuk ka shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, energji, edhe nga vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit, t\u00eb merren aq gjat\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre, p\u00ebrkund\u00ebr q\u00eb mbajn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi direkte. Megjithat\u00eb, duke qen\u00eb se autor\u00ebt jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ato vet\u00eb jan\u00eb produkt i rrethanave shoq\u00ebrore, ndikimeve negative dhe d\u00ebshtimeve institucionale (familja, shkolla, drejt\u00ebsia, Qendrat e Sh\u00ebrbimeve Sociale etj.) q\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb arritur t\u2019i edukojn\u00eb, t\u2019i mbrojn\u00eb dhe t\u2019i drejtojn\u00eb drejt sjelljeve paq\u00ebsore. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb miturat e p\u00ebrfshira, si ajo q\u00eb p\u00ebsoi dhun\u00ebn, ashtu edhe ato q\u00eb e ushtruan at\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb kuptim m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb jan\u00eb viktima: e para, viktim\u00eb direkte e dhun\u00ebs; t\u00eb tjerat, viktima t\u00eb kushteve dhe munges\u00ebs s\u00eb mbrojtjes s\u00eb duhur nga shoq\u00ebria, familja, shkolla dhe shteti. Ky rast tregon nevoj\u00ebn urgjente p\u00ebr politika parandaluese, edukim mbi empatin\u00eb dhe mekanizma efektiv\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrjes p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb rrezik. A nuk jan\u00eb fajtore pas ndodhis\u00eb, edhe mediet q\u00eb shkel\u00ebn Kodin Etik dhe ekspozuan me fotografi t\u00eb miturat, q\u00eb ndalohet rrept\u00ebsisht me ligjet n\u00eb fuqi dhe Kodin Etik t\u00eb Medieve t\u00eb Shkruara?! Di\u00e7ka nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull dhe di\u00e7ka nuk po funksionon mir\u00eb me asnj\u00eb institucion, p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb edhe familjen.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrgjigje p\u00ebr disa komente mbi sociopatin\u00eb dhe psikopatin\u00eb<\/p>\n
Me t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, video e publikuar ngjalli jo vet\u00ebm pik\u00ebllim, por edhe mllef t\u00eb pabesuesh\u00ebm publik. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mllef, lexoja komente nga m\u00eb mizoret, sikur vet\u00eb akti. Pasi kam p\u00ebrfunduar studimet p\u00ebr psikologji dhe nga kureshtja ime e gjer\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrcjell n\u00eb vazhdim\u00ebsi zhvillimet n\u00eb psikologji klinike dhe psikiatri bot\u00ebrore, do t\u00eb elaboroj n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi kujdesin q\u00eb duhet pasur me diagnoza rreth psikopatis\u00eb dhe sociopatis\u00eb, pasi q\u00eb shoh shum\u00eb komente amatore, qoft\u00eb edhe nga figura t\u00eb njohura publike. K\u00ebtu do t\u00eb ndaj gjith\u00e7ka profesionale dhe shkencore mbi psikologjin\u00eb abnormale dhe psikiatrin\u00eb, rreth \u00c7rregullimit t\u00eb Personalitetit Antisocial, pasi q\u00eb manuali m\u00eb i njohur bot\u00ebror, p\u00ebrdit\u00ebsohet kryesisht n\u00eb \u00e7do 10 vjet, dhe sociopatin\u00eb e psikopatin\u00eb, nuk i njeh si kategori t\u00eb ndara t\u00eb diagnostifikimit, por t\u00eb gjitha futen n\u00eb nj\u00eb kategori t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb diagnostifikuese, si \u201c\u00c7rregullimi i Personalitetit Antisocial\u201d, pasi si\u00e7 e p\u00ebrmenda q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim, tipat antisocial\u00eb jan\u00eb aktivisht kund\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, kund\u00ebr shoq\u00ebris\u00eb, l\u00ebndojn\u00eb, posht\u00ebrojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe kan\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi patologjike gjat\u00eb aktit l\u00ebndues. \u201cManuali Diagnostikues dhe Statistikor i \u00c7rregullimeve Mendore i Shoqat\u00ebs Amerikane t\u00eb Psikiatris\u00eb, Botimi i Pest\u00eb, Rishikimi i Tekstit (DSM5-TR), m\u00eb i fundit, i vitit 2022, \u00ebsht\u00eb rishikimi i par\u00eb i botuar i DSM-5, i cili i integron kriteret diagnostikuese t\u00eb botuara origjinale t\u00eb DSM-5 me modifikime (kryesisht p\u00ebr qart\u00ebsi) p\u00ebr mbi 70 \u00e7rregullime, tekst p\u00ebrshkrues t\u00eb azhurnuar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb gjith\u00ebp\u00ebrfshir\u00ebse q\u00eb shoq\u00ebron secilin prej \u00e7rregullimeve t\u00eb DSM-s\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb rishikimet e literatur\u00ebs q\u00eb nga publikimi i DSM-5, dhe shtimin e nj\u00eb diagnoze t\u00eb re, \u00e7rregullimin e zgjatur t\u00eb pik\u00ebllimit dhe kodeve t\u00eb simptomave p\u00ebr raportimin e sjelljes vet\u00ebvras\u00ebse dhe jo-vet\u00ebvras\u00ebse vet\u00ebl\u00ebnduese.\u201d( American Psychiatric Association, \u201cDSM-5-TR\u201d, Washington, 2022).<\/p>\n
N\u00eb DSM5-TR, \u00c7rregullimi i Personalitetit Antisocial hyn n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb \u00c7rregullimeve t\u00eb Personalitetit dhe diagnostifikohet me kodin F60.2. Kriteret diagnostifikuese jan\u00eb:
\n\u201cA. Nj\u00eb model i p\u00ebrhapur i shp\u00ebrfilljes dhe shkeljes s\u00eb t\u00eb drejtave t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, q\u00eb ndodh q\u00eb nga mosha 15 vje\u00e7, si\u00e7 tregohet nga tre (ose m\u00eb shum\u00eb) nga t\u00eb m\u00ebposhtmet:<\/p>\n
1. Mosrespektimi i normave shoq\u00ebrore n\u00eb lidhje me sjelljet e ligjshme, si\u00e7 tregohet nga kryerja e p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur e veprimeve q\u00eb jan\u00eb baz\u00eb p\u00ebr arrestim.
\n2. Mashtrim, si\u00e7 tregohet nga g\u00ebnjeshtrat e p\u00ebrs\u00ebritura, p\u00ebrdorimi i pseudonimeve ose mashtrimi i t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve p\u00ebr p\u00ebrfitim ose k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi personale.
\n3. Impulsivitet ose d\u00ebshtim p\u00ebr t\u00eb planifikuar paraprakisht.
\n4. Irritueshm\u00ebri dhe agresivitet, si\u00e7 tregohet nga p\u00ebrleshje ose sulme fizike t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritura.
\n5. Shp\u00ebrfillje e pamatur p\u00ebr sigurin\u00eb e vetes ose t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.
\n6. Pap\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi e vazhdueshme, si\u00e7 tregohet nga d\u00ebshtimi i p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur sjellje t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme n\u00eb pun\u00eb ose p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur detyrimet financiare.
\n7. Munges\u00eb keqardhjeje, si\u00e7 tregohet nga indiferenca ose racionalizimi i l\u00ebndimit, keqtrajtimit ose vjedhjes nga nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.
\nB. Individi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7.
\nC. Ka prova t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb sjelljes me fillim para mosh\u00ebs 15 vje\u00e7.
\nD. Shfaqja e sjelljes antisociale nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ekskluzivisht gjat\u00eb shfaqjes s\u00eb skizofrenis\u00eb ose \u00e7rregullimit bipolar. (Po aty, f.748)
\n\u00c7rregullimi i Personalitetit Social shpesh njihet n\u00eb publik si psikopati ose sociopati. Sipas DSM-s\u00eb 5-TR, thuhet: \u201cTipari thelb\u00ebsor i \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb model i p\u00ebrhapur i shp\u00ebrfilljes dhe shkeljes s\u00eb t\u00eb drejtave t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve q\u00eb fillon n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri ose adoleshenc\u00ebn e hershme dhe vazhdon n\u00eb mosh\u00eb madhore. Ky model \u00ebsht\u00eb referuar edhe si psikopati, sociopati ose \u00e7rregullim i personalitetit dissocial. Meqen\u00ebse mashtrimi dhe manipulimi jan\u00eb tipare qendrore t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht e dobishme t\u00eb integrohet informacioni i fituar nga vler\u00ebsimi klinik sistematik me informacionin e mbledhur nga burime an\u00ebsore.\u201d(Po aty, f.749)<\/p>\n
Por a mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i diagnostifikuar nj\u00eb invidid me F.60.2, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7? Jo, n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb. \u201cQ\u00eb t\u00eb jepet kjo diagnoz\u00eb, individi duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7 (Kriteri B) dhe duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasur prova t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb sjelljes me fillim para mosh\u00ebs 15 vje\u00e7 (Kriteri C). \u00c7rregullimi i sjelljes p\u00ebrfshin nj\u00eb model sjelljeje p\u00ebrs\u00ebrit\u00ebse dhe t\u00eb vazhdueshme n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn shkelen t\u00eb drejtat themelore t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve ose normat ose rregullat kryesore shoq\u00ebrore t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr mosh\u00ebn. Sjelljet specifike karakteristike t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb sjelljes bien n\u00eb nj\u00ebr\u00ebn nga kat\u00ebr kategorit\u00eb: agresion ndaj njer\u00ebzve dhe kafsh\u00ebve, shkat\u00ebrrim i pron\u00ebs, mashtrim ose vjedhje, ose shkelje serioze e rregullave. Modeli i sjelljes antisociale vazhdon n\u00eb mosh\u00eb madhore. Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial nuk arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrputhen me normat shoq\u00ebrore n\u00eb lidhje me sjelljen e ligjshme (Kriteri A1). Ata mund t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur veprime q\u00eb jan\u00eb baz\u00eb p\u00ebr arrestim (pavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse arrestohen apo jo), t\u00eb tilla si shkat\u00ebrrimi i pron\u00ebs, ngacmimi i t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, vjedhja ose ndjekja e profesioneve t\u00eb paligjshme. Personat me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7rregullim shp\u00ebrfillin d\u00ebshirat, t\u00eb drejtat ose ndjenjat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. Ata jan\u00eb shpesh mashtrues dhe manipulues me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb fitojn\u00eb p\u00ebrfitim ose k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi personale (p.sh., p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar para, seks ose pushtet) (Kriteri A2). Ata mund t\u00eb g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb vazhdimisht, t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin nj\u00eb pseudonim, t\u00eb mashtrojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt ose t\u00eb simulojn\u00eb. Nj\u00eb model impulsiviteti mund t\u00eb manifestohet nga nj\u00eb d\u00ebshtim p\u00ebr t\u00eb planifikuar paraprakisht (Kriteri A3). Vendimet merren menj\u00ebher\u00eb, pa menduar paraprakisht dhe pa marr\u00eb parasysh pasojat p\u00ebr veten ose t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt; kjo mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb ndryshime t\u00eb papritura t\u00eb vendeve t\u00eb pun\u00ebs, vendbanimit ose marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve. Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb nervoz\u00eb dhe agresiv\u00eb dhe mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihen vazhdimisht n\u00eb p\u00ebrleshje fizike ose t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb akte sulmi fizik (p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb rrahjen e bashk\u00ebshortit ose rrahjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs) (Kriteri A4). (Aktet agresive q\u00eb k\u00ebrkohen p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur veten ose dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr nuk konsiderohen si prova p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb.) K\u00ebta individ\u00eb gjithashtu shfaqin nj\u00eb shp\u00ebrfillje t\u00eb pamatur p\u00ebr sigurin\u00eb e tyre ose t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve (Kriteri A5). <\/p>\n
Kjo mund t\u00eb d\u00ebshmohet n\u00eb sjelljen e tyre t\u00eb ngasjes (p.sh., shpejt\u00ebsi e p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur, drejtim n\u00ebn ndikimin e alkoolit, aksidente t\u00eb shum\u00ebfishta). Ata mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihen n\u00eb sjellje seksuale ose p\u00ebrdorim substancash q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb rrezik t\u00eb lart\u00eb me pasoja t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme. Ata mund t\u00eb neglizhojn\u00eb ose t\u00eb mos kujdesen p\u00ebr nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb e v\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn n\u00eb rrezik. Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial gjithashtu kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb vazhdimisht dhe jasht\u00ebzakonisht t\u00eb pap\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm (Kriteri A6). Sjellja e pap\u00ebrgjegjshme n\u00eb pun\u00eb mund t\u00eb tregohet nga periudha t\u00eb konsiderueshme papun\u00ebsie pavar\u00ebsisht mund\u00ebsive t\u00eb pun\u00ebs n\u00eb dispozicion, ose nga braktisja e disa vendeve t\u00eb pun\u00ebs pa nj\u00eb plan realist p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur nj\u00eb pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb model t\u00eb mungesave t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritura nga puna q\u00eb nuk shpjegohen nga s\u00ebmundja as tek ata vet\u00eb as n\u00eb familjen e tyre. Pap\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia financiare tregohet nga veprime t\u00eb tilla si mospagimi i borxheve, mosdh\u00ebnia e mb\u00ebshtetjes p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt ose mosmb\u00ebshtetja e personave t\u00eb tjer\u00eb n\u00eb var\u00ebsi n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb rregullt. Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial tregojn\u00eb pak keqardhje p\u00ebr pasojat e veprimeve t\u00eb tyre (Kriteri A7). Ata mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb indiferent\u00eb ose t\u00eb ofrojn\u00eb nj\u00eb justifikim sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsor p\u00ebr l\u00ebndimin, keqtrajtimin ose vjedhjen e dikujt (p.sh., “jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb e padrejt\u00eb”, “humb\u00ebsit meritojn\u00eb t\u00eb humbasin”). K\u00ebta individ\u00eb mund t’i faj\u00ebsojn\u00eb viktimat se jan\u00eb budallenj, t\u00eb pafuqish\u00ebm ose se e meritojn\u00eb fatin e tyre…; ata mund t\u00eb minimizojn\u00eb pasojat e d\u00ebmshme t\u00eb veprimeve t\u00eb tyre; ose thjesht mund t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb indiferenc\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb. Ata n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi nuk arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb kompensojn\u00eb ose t\u00eb ndreqin sjelljen e tyre…\u201d (Po aty, f.748-749)<\/p>\n
Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial shpesh nuk kan\u00eb empati dhe priren t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb pandjesh\u00ebm, cinik\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrbuz\u00ebs ndaj ndjenjave, t\u00eb drejtave dhe vuajtjeve t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. \u201cAta mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim t\u00eb fryr\u00eb dhe arrogant (p.sh., t\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb se puna e zakonshme \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn nivelin e tyre ose u mungon nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim realist p\u00ebr problemet e tyre aktuale ose t\u00eb ardhmen e tyre) dhe mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb tep\u00ebr kok\u00ebfort\u00eb, t\u00eb sigurt n\u00eb vetvete ose mendjem\u00ebdhenj. Disa individ\u00eb antisocial\u00eb mund t\u00eb shfaqin nj\u00eb hijeshi t\u00eb cek\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqshme, dhe mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb rrjedhsh\u00ebm n\u00eb t\u00eb folur dhe t\u00eb shkatht\u00eb verbalisht (p.sh., duke p\u00ebrdorur terma teknik\u00eb ose zhargon q\u00eb mund t\u00eb impresionoj\u00eb dik\u00eb q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i njohur me tem\u00ebn).\u201d (Po aty, f.749-750)<\/p>\n
Madje, ka nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb q\u00eb tiparet e k\u00ebtij \u00e7rregullimi bien me mosh\u00ebn e pjekuris\u00eb. \u201c\u00c7rregullimi antisocial i personalitetit ka nj\u00eb ecuri kronike, por mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb pak i duksh\u00ebm ose t\u00eb zbehet nd\u00ebrsa individi maturohet, shpesh rreth mosh\u00ebs 40 vje\u00e7. Edhe pse kjo zbehje \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht e dukshme n\u00eb lidhje me p\u00ebrfshirjen n\u00eb sjellje kriminale, ka t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb r\u00ebnie n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb spektrin e sjelljeve antisociale dhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimin e substancave. (Po aty, f.751)
\nJan\u00eb disa faktor\u00eb q\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7rregullim, prej atyre gjenetike, e deri n\u00eb faktor\u00ebt social\u00eb, kulturor\u00eb dhe stile t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme t\u00eb prind\u00ebrimit. \u201cAbuzimi ose neglizhimi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, prind\u00ebrimi i pasigurt\u00eb ose i pap\u00ebrcaktuar, ose disiplinimi i pasakt\u00eb i prind\u00ebrve mund t\u00eb rrisin mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb \u00e7rregullimi i sjelljes t\u00eb evoluoj\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7rregullim antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit. \u00c7rregullimi antisocial i personalitetit \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i zakonsh\u00ebm tek t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit biologjik\u00eb t\u00eb shkall\u00ebs s\u00eb par\u00eb t\u00eb individ\u00ebve q\u00eb e kan\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7rregullim sesa n\u00eb popullat\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjithshme. T\u00eb af\u00ebrmit biologjik\u00eb t\u00eb individ\u00ebve me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7rregullim jan\u00eb gjithashtu n\u00eb rrezik t\u00eb shtuar p\u00ebr \u00e7rregullimin e somatizimit (nj\u00eb diagnoz\u00eb q\u00eb u z\u00ebvend\u00ebsua n\u00eb DSM-5 me \u00e7rregullimin e simptomave somatike) dhe \u00e7rregullimet e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb substancave. Brenda nj\u00eb familjeje q\u00eb ka nj\u00eb an\u00ebtar me \u00e7rregullim antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit, meshkujt shpesh kan\u00eb \u00e7rregullim antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit dhe \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb substancave, nd\u00ebrsa femrat m\u00eb shpesh kan\u00eb \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb somatizimit.\u201d (Po aty, f.751)<\/p>\n
Ka nj\u00eb mori faktor\u00ebsh t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm, q\u00eb e rrisin rrezikun p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7rrregullim. \u201c\u00c7rregullimi antisocial i personalitetit \u00ebsht\u00eb lidhur me statusin e ul\u00ebt socio-ekonomik dhe mjediset urbane. Diagnoza mund t\u00eb aplikohet gabimisht n\u00eb disa raste tek individ\u00ebt n\u00eb mjedise ku sjellja q\u00eb duket antisociale mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb pjes\u00eb e nj\u00eb strategjie mbijetese mbrojt\u00ebse (p.sh., krijimi i bandave rinore n\u00eb zonat urbane me norma t\u00eb larta t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs dhe diskriminimit). Kontekstet sociokulturore me norma t\u00eb larta t\u00eb keqtrajtimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve ose ekspozimit n\u00eb dhun\u00eb gjithashtu tregon t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb prevalenc\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb t\u00eb sjelljeve antisociale, duke sugjeruar ose nj\u00eb faktor rreziku p\u00ebr zhvillimin e \u00e7rregullimit antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit, ose nj\u00eb mjedis t\u00eb pafavorsh\u00ebm q\u00eb nxjerr sjellje antisociale reaktive dhe kontekstuale q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsojn\u00eb tipare t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapura dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb personalitetit. N\u00eb vler\u00ebsimin e tipareve antisociale, \u00ebsht\u00eb e dobishme q\u00eb klinicisti t\u00eb marr\u00eb parasysh kontekstin social dhe ekonomik n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin ndodhin k\u00ebto sjellje. <\/p>\n
N\u00eb Anket\u00ebn Komb\u00ebtare Epidemiologjike mbi Alkoolin dhe Kushtet e Lidhuara, prevalenca duket se ndryshon mes grupeve etnike dhe racore n\u00eb SHBA, ndoshta p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb nj\u00eb kombinimi t\u00eb dallimeve t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta n\u00eb prevalenc\u00eb, artefakteve t\u00eb matjes dhe ndikimit t\u00eb mjediseve t\u00eb pafavorshme q\u00eb krijojn\u00eb sjellje q\u00eb duken si ato t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit, por q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb fakt reaktive dhe kontekstuale.\u201d(Po aty, f.751-752)
\nKa edhe disa faktor\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb shoq\u00ebror\u00eb q\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb edhe n\u00eb vet\u00eb paragjykimet n\u00eb diagnostifikim. \u201cIndivid\u00ebt nga disa grupe sociologjikisht t\u00eb shtypura mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb rrezikuar p\u00ebr diagnoz\u00ebn e gabuar ose p\u00ebr diagnostikimin e tep\u00ebrt t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit, sepse ata kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb diagnostikohen gabimisht me \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb sjelljes gjat\u00eb adoleshenc\u00ebs, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb k\u00ebrkes\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb diagnoz\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7rregullimit antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit. \u00c7rregullimi antisocial i personalitetit duhet t\u00eb dalloj\u00eb nga sjellja antisociale q\u00eb nuk lidhet me nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim mendor, p\u00ebr shembull, sjellja kriminale e nd\u00ebrmarr\u00eb p\u00ebr fitim q\u00eb nuk shoq\u00ebrohet me tiparet e personalitetit karakteristike t\u00eb k\u00ebtij \u00e7rregullimi. Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb gjithashtu disfori, p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb ankesat p\u00ebr tension, paaft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb duruar m\u00ebrzin\u00eb dhe humor t\u00eb depresionuar. <\/p>\n
Ata mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb ankthit, \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb humorit, \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb substancave, \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb simptomave somatike dhe \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb loj\u00ebrave t\u00eb fatit. Individ\u00ebt me \u00e7rregullim antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit gjithashtu shpesh kan\u00eb tipare t\u00eb personalitetit q\u00eb plot\u00ebsojn\u00eb kriteret p\u00ebr \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb personalitetit, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb personalitetit kufitar, histrionik dhe narcisist. Mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr zhvillimin e \u00e7rregullimit antisocial t\u00eb personalitetit n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e rritur rritet n\u00ebse individi ka p\u00ebrjetuar fillimin e \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb sjelljes n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri (para mosh\u00ebs 10 vje\u00e7) dhe \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes\/deliriumit t\u00eb hiperaktivitetit.\u201d (Po aty, f.751-752)
\nJo \u00e7do sjellje antisociale mund t\u00eb kategorizohet si \u00c7rregullim i Personalitetit Antisocial, pasi edhe vet\u00eb DSM5-TR, ka parapar\u00eb dy kategori t\u00eb tjera me sjellje antisociale, q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb pjes\u00eb n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb \u201cKushtet ose problemet shtes\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb fokusin e v\u00ebmendjes klinike\u201d. Kjo kategori p\u00ebrfshin kushte ose probleme q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb individ\u00eb me \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial, por q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb pjes\u00eb e diagnostik\u00ebs kryesore p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7rregullim. K\u00ebto mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb, por nuk kufizohen n\u00eb: Z72.811 Sjellja antisociale e t\u00eb rriturve-Kjo kategori mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret kur fokusi i v\u00ebmendjes klinike \u00ebsht\u00eb sjellja antisociale e t\u00eb rriturve q\u00eb nuk mund t\u2019i atribuohen nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullimi mendor (p.sh., \u00e7rregullimi i sjelljes, \u00e7rregullimi antisocial i personalitetit). Shembuj p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb sjelljen e disa hajdut\u00ebve profesional\u00eb, k\u00ebrkuesve t\u00eb parave n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb paligjshme, ose tregtar\u00ebve t\u00eb substancave t\u00eb paligjshme. Z72.810 Sjellja antisociale e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve ose adoleshent\u00ebve – Kjo kategori mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret kur fokusi i v\u00ebmendjes klinike \u00ebsht\u00eb sjellja antisociale e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije ose adoleshenti q\u00eb nuk mund t\u2019i atribuohen nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullimi mendor (p.sh., \u00e7rregullimi i shp\u00ebrthimeve t\u00eb ndodhura her\u00eb pas here, \u00e7rregullimi i sjelljes). Shembuj p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb akte t\u00eb izoluara antisociale nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt ose adoleshent\u00ebt (jo nj\u00eb model sjelljesh antisociale).\u201d (Po aty, f.835)
\nEdhe disa individ\u00eb me ADHD (\u00c7rregullimi i Aktivitetit t\u00eb Lart\u00eb dhe V\u00ebmendjes), mund t\u00eb zhvillojn\u00eb sjellje antisociale. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, mungesa e empatis\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkimfaljes p\u00ebr l\u00ebndime t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, m\u00eb shum\u00eb kategorizohet si \u00e7rregullim i sjelljes ose munges\u00eb e ndjeshm\u00ebris\u00eb emocionale, e jo si \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial. Marr\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi, \u00ebsht\u00eb gabim diagnostifikimi amator, pa u mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb manuale shkencore bot\u00ebrore, e t\u00eb p\u00ebrdit\u00ebsuara, bazuar vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb video dhe p\u00ebrderisa jan\u00eb t\u00eb mitura, por fatkeq\u00ebsisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur shum\u00eb paditura, mungesa e leximit, zhvillimi i dob\u00ebt profesional etj., qoft\u00eb edhe n\u00ebse dikush ka tituj formal\u00eb akademik\u00eb.
\nRekomandimet<\/p>\n
\u2022 E mitura viktim\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetet n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00ebdo forme p\u00ebr sh\u00ebrim sa m\u00eb t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb nga l\u00ebndimet fizike, sociale dhe psikologjike. Familja e viktim\u00ebs, gjithashtu. Nga \u00e7do institucion. Jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebrkrahje emocionale, terapi individuale e familjare t\u00eb gjitha falas nga terapist\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebshmuar (madje, pse jo, edhe angazhim t\u00eb terapist\u00ebve t\u00eb huaj, sepse e kan\u00eb psikoterapin\u00eb aq t\u00eb zhvilluar n\u00eb Per\u00ebndim, sakaq ne si kosovar\u00eb, vet\u00ebm pas luft\u00ebs, e kemi hapur Departamentin e Psikologjis\u00eb dhe kemi shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta avancuar psikoterapin\u00eb), por edhe d\u00ebmshp\u00ebrblim sipas ligjeve n\u00eb fuqi p\u00ebr familjen e viktim\u00ebs, mb\u00ebshtetje p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb t\u00eb mitur\u00ebn viktim\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do aktivitet social, sportiv, kulturor; mb\u00ebshtetje p\u00ebr zhvillim akademik, burs\u00eb t\u00eb garantuar p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdo drejtimi q\u00eb merr n\u00eb studimet universitare e pasuniversitare etj.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb zbatohet Kodi i Drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb Miturit, duke i p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb t\u00eb miturat n\u00eb edukim, rehabilitim dhe risocializim, me seriozitetin m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb dhe urgjenc\u00eb.<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb zgjidhet \u00e7\u00ebshtja ligjore n\u00eb mes t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb viktim\u00ebs dhe familjeve t\u00eb kryer\u00ebseve t\u00eb mitura, me p\u00ebrkushtimin m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb institucional t\u00eb drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb, me urgjenc\u00eb, pa neglizhenc\u00eb. Rasti t\u00eb jet\u00eb kryeprioritet si l\u00ebnd\u00eb gjyq\u00ebsore.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb ndjekin shembullin edhe prind\u00ebrit e tjer\u00eb, p\u00ebr k\u00ebrkimfalje publike, si\u00e7 ndodhi me prindin e nj\u00ebr\u00ebs t\u00eb mitur n\u00eb Nacionale, duke e ruajtur anonimitetin p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, se jo p\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr arsye. P.sh., n\u00ebse prindi i t\u00eb mitur\u00ebs del me em\u00ebr e mbiem\u00ebr e fytyr\u00eb, s\u00ebrish identifikohet e mitura kryer\u00ebse, sepse vrapohet pas njohjes s\u00eb prindit p\u00ebr ta identifikuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, apo qoft\u00eb edhe me nj\u00eb k\u00ebrkim t\u00eb fotografis\u00eb n\u00eb profilin e rrjeteve sociale.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb ligj\u00ebrohet n\u00eb or\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb shtatorit t\u00eb k\u00ebtij viti n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha shkollat e nivelit t\u00eb mes\u00ebm t\u00eb ul\u00ebt e t\u00eb mes\u00ebm t\u00eb lart\u00eb, n\u00eb Gjilan e kudo, p\u00ebr pasojat e \u00e7do veprimi t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr pasojat, ose vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr empatin\u00eb, e jo p\u00ebr tema shum\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuara, thjesht p\u00ebr edukim e informim t\u00eb sjelljes prosociale.
\n\u2022 E rekomandoj fuqish\u00ebm, q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve kryer\u00ebse, me shpres\u00ebn q\u00eb u vjen nga z\u00ebri i brendsh\u00ebm i nd\u00ebrgjegjes, t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihen vet\u00eb ata n\u00eb fushata kund\u00ebr dhun\u00ebs, bullizmit, q\u00eb at\u00eb tragjedi, ta kthejn\u00eb n\u00eb dobishm\u00ebri shoq\u00ebrore e publike, madje, pse jo, edhe themelimin e nj\u00eb OJQ-je kund\u00ebr dhun\u00ebs, kund\u00ebr bullizmit.
\n\u2022 E rekomandoj p\u00ebr \u00e7do prind, q\u00eb pa dashje \u00ebsht\u00eb tashm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lin\u00e7im edhe publik, t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb ngjarjen (jo t\u00eb mohoj\u00eb), t\u00eb mos gjej\u00eb as edhe nj\u00eb justifikim t\u00eb vet\u00ebm t\u00eb asaj q\u00eb ka ndodhur dhe t\u00eb mos e relativizoj\u00eb n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ka ndodhur, ve\u00e7mas para f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, por edhe kudo dhe kurdo, p\u00ebr asnj\u00eb rast a situat\u00eb.<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb intervenohet me koh\u00eb n\u00eb rastet e viktimave t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs e bullizmit, pasi si\u00e7 e d\u00ebgjuam, nj\u00ebra nga kryer\u00ebset e mitur, ishte vet\u00eb viktim\u00eb e bullizmit sa ishte edhe m\u00eb e vog\u00ebl, dhe m\u00eb pas, rezultoi q\u00eb ish-viktima t\u00eb b\u00ebhet vet\u00eb kryer\u00ebse.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb punohet me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e divorcuar, pasi q\u00eb divorci, ve\u00e7mas kur nuk p\u00ebrcillet me kujdes maksimal nga prind\u00ebrit e divorcuar, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb me shum\u00eb gjasa ose viktim\u00eb e dhun\u00ebs, ose kryer\u00ebse e dhun\u00ebs, e njohur nga literatura bot\u00ebrore. Nj\u00ebra nga kryer\u00ebset, p\u00ebr sa kam informacione, \u00ebsht\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb divorcuar.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb rritet p\u00ebrgjegjshm\u00ebria e prind\u00ebrve, duke qen\u00eb vet\u00eb model i mir\u00eb prosocial dhe q\u00eb i zgjidhin konfliktet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb paq\u00ebsore, e jo vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshilla bajate me fjal\u00eb, pa veprim.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb rritet p\u00ebrgjegjshm\u00ebria prind\u00ebrore, duke shmangur sjelljet e pap\u00ebrshtatshme si t\u00eb rritur, si var\u00ebsia nga alkooli, bixhozi, neglizhenca, vrapimi vet\u00ebm pas paras\u00eb, stili i padobish\u00ebm prind\u00ebror e mungesa e kufijve t\u00eb vendosur p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Rrjetet sociale faj\u00ebsohen tashm\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb. Ka tashm\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb studime p\u00ebr efektet e rrjeteve sociale n\u00eb shp\u00ebrqendrim t\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes, p\u00ebr ankth, depresion, FOMO, imitim agresiviteti, bulliz\u00ebm, abuzim seksual etj., ve\u00e7mas te brezi i ri, por ato mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb instrumente t\u00eb fuqishme t\u00eb dijes profesionale, kur ka edukim p\u00ebr ku dhe \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet, e jo n\u00eb skroll t\u00eb pandalsh\u00ebm, kot s\u00eb koti. A nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh kuzhinier i jasht\u00ebzakonsh\u00ebm, n\u00ebse e shfryt\u00ebzon internetin?! A nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh njoh\u00ebs i shum\u00eb gjuh\u00ebve t\u00eb huaja, n\u00ebse e shfryt\u00ebzon si\u00e7 duhet internetin?! A nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh IT esencial apo \u00e7kado tjet\u00ebr, n\u00ebse ndjek aq shum\u00eb kurse online?! Jo t\u00eb nderuar, n\u00eb nj\u00eb an\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndjek\u00ebsh instagramin e kuzhinierit m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00ebson receta gatimi, ose n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr ta ndjek\u00ebsh Kozakun?! Ju vet\u00eb, zgjedhni. Sa kanale t\u00eb mira keni n\u00eb Jutjube p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar \u00e7do zanat e profesion?! Sa prej jush d\u00ebgjoni TEDx, ligj\u00ebrata nga profesor\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb shquar t\u00eb universiteteve m\u00eb t\u00eb nderuara e m\u00eb s\u00eb larti n\u00eb ranglista bot\u00ebrore n\u00eb internet?! Un\u00eb nuk jam as teknofil, i s\u00ebmur\u00eb pas teknologjis\u00eb pa asnj\u00eb edukim kritik, as nuk jam teknofob, duke u frik\u00ebsuar nga \u00e7do teknologji e re, por jam teknoskeptik, e teknokritik, duke e p\u00ebrdorur teknologjin\u00eb, me mas\u00eb, jo me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra, as kot s\u00eb koti, por p\u00ebr shum\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje akademike, por edhe p\u00ebr arg\u00ebtim e socializim.
\n\u2022 E rekomandoj p\u00ebr \u00e7do prind, q\u00eb t\u00eb nxis\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00eb reflektim t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm, pa e detyruar k\u00ebrkimfaljen sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsore nga f\u00ebmija, por t\u00eb arrij\u00eb empati t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb thell\u00ebsisht falje p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb me bashk\u00ebmoshataret.<\/p>\n
\u2022 E rekomandoj p\u00ebr \u00e7do prind, q\u00eb dhuna t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb mjet i nd\u00ebshkimit me dhun\u00eb, por me mb\u00ebshtetje emocionale q\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb rehabilitohet, risocializohet dhe t\u00eb reflektoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb personalitet i pjekur, paq\u00ebsor dhe i dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr veten, familjen, lagjen, komun\u00ebn, shtetin e njer\u00ebzimin.<\/p>\n
\u2022 E rekomandoj p\u00ebr \u00e7do prind, q\u00eb n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, p\u00ebr asnj\u00eb \u00e7ast, t\u00eb solidarizohet me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn nga at\u00ebsia e m\u00ebm\u00ebsia, me emocione, por t\u00eb punoj\u00eb intensivisht p\u00ebr rehabilitim, riedukim dhe risocializim. M\u00eb shum\u00eb se si ndihen kryer\u00ebset, duhet t\u00eb rritet empatia si ndjehet ajo, viktima, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, e n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb dyt\u00eb, natyrisht, edhe vet\u00eb kryer\u00ebset, sepse jan\u00eb t\u00eb mitura.
\n\u2022 Institucionet komunale t\u00eb Gjilanit t\u00eb identifikojn\u00eb \u00e7do sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb braktisur, ku rritet anonimiteti, dhe n\u00eb \u00e7do lagje urbane, ku dihen problematik\u00ebt tinejxher\u00eb, t\u00eb marrin masa t\u00eb monitorimit, bashk\u00eb me policin\u00eb e lagjes e komunitetit, p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar sjelljet agresive dhe vandalizimin e hap\u00ebsirave publike. Ka shum\u00eb shembuj n\u00eb bot\u00eb, ku lagjet me err\u00ebsir\u00eb, pa ndri\u00e7im publik, b\u00ebhen me ndri\u00e7im, ose mir\u00ebmbahen me koh\u00eb, ose estetizohen, e ulet krimi, sepse n\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn, b\u00ebhen streh\u00eb t\u00eb abuzimit me droga, substanca t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme, alkool, bulliz\u00ebm brenda dhe jasht\u00eb grupit, planifikim t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs individuale e grupore etj. T\u00eb monitorohen parqet e lagjeve urbane, pasi q\u00eb shpesh kemi d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr banda t\u00eb t\u00eb rinjve q\u00eb krijojn\u00eb \u201chabitatin\u201d e tyre dhe zhvillohen si gangster\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl e m\u00eb pas b\u00ebhen t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj, duke imituar yje filmash, k\u00ebng\u00ebtar\u00ebsh e influencer\u00ebsh t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm.
\n\u2022 I rekomandoj \u00e7do prindit, q\u00eb t\u00eb menaxhoj\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, jo duke i rehatuar vet\u00ebm me plot\u00ebsim t\u00eb menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm t\u00eb d\u00ebshirave, por t\u00eb p\u00ebrforcohen var\u00ebsisht nga sjellja e tyre prosociale, e t\u00eb nd\u00ebshkohen me forma t\u00eb pranueshme alternative, duke e shmangur nga gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb i duan, p.sh., ndalim i celularit.
\n\u2022 I rekomandoj \u00e7do prindit, stilin e prind\u00ebrimit autoritativ, e jo si\u00e7 po dominon sot n\u00eb familjet shqiptare, stili lejues, ose disa jan\u00eb neglizhues, ose disa jan\u00eb autoritar\u00eb. Akademia Amerikane e Pediatris\u00eb, rekomandon stilin e prind\u00ebrimit autoritativ. \u201cPrind\u00ebrit autoritar\u00eb ngulmojn\u00eb n\u00eb rregulla t\u00eb rrepta, bindje e disiplin\u00eb; mendojn\u00eb se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb shihen, por jo t\u00eb d\u00ebgjohen; p\u00ebr rregullat, mendoni ose si them un\u00eb, ose hi\u00e7; nuk marrin n\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb ndjenjat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs; nuk e tregojn\u00eb arsyen p\u00ebr nj\u00eb rregull, por se vet\u00ebmjaftohen q\u00eb: un\u00eb thash\u00eb, kaq! F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nga prind\u00ebrit autoritarist\u00eb, kan\u00eb mir\u00ebsjellje n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, por rebelohen jasht\u00eb saj; v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr aft\u00ebsi sociale dhe vendimmarrje; vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim i ul\u00ebt, agresivitet, probleme me menaxhimin e zem\u00ebrimit; mund\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb larta p\u00ebr depresion dhe p\u00ebrdorim substancash. Prind\u00ebrimi lejues ose permisiv jep rregulla, por rrall\u00eb i zbaton. Jo shpesh pasoja p\u00ebr sjellje t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme. Lejim i gjith\u00e7kajes p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. M\u00eb shum\u00eb tolerant\u00eb dhe nd\u00ebrhyjn\u00eb vet\u00ebm kur ka problem serioz. Ata shpesh sillen m\u00eb shum\u00eb si shok\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, sesa si figura autoriteti (nj\u00ebri nga prind\u00ebrit e t\u00eb mitur\u00ebs theksoi se, \u201craportet me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn i kam si shok\u201d) dhe nuk e zbatojn\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb disiplin\u00ebn. Ky tip prind\u00ebrimi rezulton p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, me prirje p\u00ebr sjellje problematike, munges\u00eb respekti p\u00ebr rregullat, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb vendimmarrje, impulsivitet, var\u00ebsi nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt… Prind\u00ebrimi autoritativ konsiderohet standardi i art\u00eb i prind\u00ebrimit. Dallon krejt\u00ebsisht nga ai autoritarist. Prind\u00ebrimi autoritativ krijon marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pozitive me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn dhe punon p\u00ebr t\u2019i ruajtur ato; shpjegon arsyet p\u00ebr vendosjen e nj\u00eb rregulli; p\u00ebrdoret lavd\u00ebrimi dhe shp\u00ebrblimi; vendosin rregulla dhe kufij, por lejojn\u00eb edhe pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, duke i par\u00eb gabimet si mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar dhe investojn\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar problemet e sjelljes. Ky lloj prind\u00ebrimi rezulton p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, me vet\u00ebbesim, p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi, aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb mira vendimmarrjeje, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb ngushta me prind\u00ebrit, rezistenc\u00eb ndaj presionit negativ dhe performanc\u00eb e lart\u00eb akademike. Prind\u00ebrimi neglizhues nuk pyet f\u00ebmij\u00ebn p\u00eb\u00ebr shkoll\u00ebn ose detyrat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, nuk di shpesh ku \u00ebsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija dhe me k\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb; nuk kalon shum\u00eb koh\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn; nuk vendosin rregulla dhe pritshm\u00ebri, ofrojn\u00eb pak udh\u00ebzim, kujdes dhe v\u00ebmendje. Shpesh f\u00ebmij\u00ebt vet\u00eb rriten. Ky lloj prind\u00ebrimi neglizhent, mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb rezultate t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs si: arritje m\u00eb t\u00eb dob\u00ebta akademike e sociale; rebelim, sjellje antisociale dhe p\u00ebrdorim substancash; v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb formuar lidhje emocionale dhe vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim i ul\u00ebt.\u201d (Lauren Pardee, \u201cWhat Is Your Parenting Style, and Why Does It Matter?\u201d, p\u00ebrdit\u00ebsuar m\u00eb 7 janar 2025, qasur n\u00eb linkun: https:\/\/www.parents.com\/parenting\/better-parenting\/style\/parenting-styles-explained\/)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Po n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin burim, mund t\u00eb gjeni edhe n\u00ebnstilet figurative simbolike t\u00eb prind\u00ebrimit, ku shumica nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme, si: \u201cprind\u00ebrim i lir\u00eb – m\u00eb shum\u00eb pavar\u00ebsi, mbik\u00ebqyrje minimale; prind\u00ebrim helikopter – kontroll i tep\u00ebrt dhe mbrojtje e ekzagjeruar; prind\u00ebrim \u201cbuldozer\u201d – heq \u00e7do penges\u00eb nga rruga e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs; prind\u00ebrim feneri – ekuilib\u00ebr midis dashuris\u00eb, mbrojtjes dhe pavar\u00ebsis\u00eb; prind\u00ebrim me lidhje t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb – af\u00ebrsi fizike dhe emocionale e lart\u00eb; prind\u00ebrim tig\u00ebr – pritshm\u00ebri shum\u00eb t\u00eb larta dhe disiplin\u00eb e rrept\u00eb; prind\u00ebrim panda – pavar\u00ebsi me mb\u00ebshtetje t\u00eb leht\u00eb; prind\u00ebrim delfin – i fort\u00eb, por fleksib\u00ebl; prind\u00ebrim kandil deti – munges\u00eb rregullash dhe pritshm\u00ebrish; prind\u00ebrim elefant – mbrojt\u00ebs dhe i dashur, fokusi te ndjeshm\u00ebria emocionale\u201d. (Po aty)<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb rritet kontrolli prind\u00ebror n\u00eb celular e mediet sociale te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb butoni q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndiqet nga t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, me njohuri elementare.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Familjet t\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunojn\u00eb ngusht\u00eb me Organin e Kujdestaris\u00eb, Qendrat p\u00ebr Pun\u00eb Sociale, OJQ-t\u00eb e licencuara, ekspert\u00ebt, psikolog\u00ebt klinik\u00eb, psikiatrit\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb vler\u00ebsim social, psikologjik dhe psikiatrik p\u00ebr sjelljen e t\u00eb miturave, ve\u00e7mas kujdesi n\u00eb analiz\u00ebn e empatis\u00eb s\u00eb tyre, sepse mungesa e empatis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7ori kryesore e antisocial\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb p\u00ebrcillet gjendja psikologjike p\u00ebr shum\u00eb vjet me radh\u00eb edhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar \u00e7far\u00ebdo forme recidivizmi. \u00cbsht\u00eb e frikshme n\u00ebse nuk kan\u00eb pendes\u00eb serioze, sepse jep nj\u00eb parashikim ogurzez\u00eb p\u00ebr formim n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial. Mungesa e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e empatis\u00eb, dhembshuris\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga problemet m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda n\u00eb qeniet njer\u00ebzore, prandaj, t\u00eb ket\u00eb kujdes sistematik, por pa humbur shpresat.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb mos jepet asnj\u00eb diagnoz\u00eb psikiatrike pa i b\u00ebr\u00eb 18 vjet, pasi q\u00eb manuali m\u00eb i njohur n\u00eb bot\u00eb, diagnozat i b\u00ebn kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt arrijn\u00eb 18 vjet, e jo m\u00eb her\u00ebt, pasi q\u00eb presupozohet se personaliteti ende \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb formim e sip\u00ebr, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb sjellje aksidentale, kontekstuale, e trendit negativ me kompleksin e fam\u00ebkeqit, ose nevoj\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u2019i takuar grupit shoq\u00ebror, imitimit, identifikimit me brendagrupin dhe shoq\u00ebrizimin me shoqe q\u00eb kan\u00eb modele sjelljesh negative, ose t\u00eb ekspozuara nga modele negative publike n\u00eb rrjetet sociale, ose me presion t\u00eb shtuar grupor.<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb angazhohen shkollat me program t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb kund\u00ebr bullizmit, dhun\u00ebs, agresivitetit etj., n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb shpeshtohen fushatat e sensibilizimit kund\u00ebr \u00e7do sjellje t\u00eb dhunshme.
\n\u2022 Stafi i shkoll\u00ebs t\u00eb jet\u00eb i p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb n\u00eb asistenc\u00ebn me psikolog\u00ebt e shkoll\u00ebs, nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit, prind\u00ebrit dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb luftuar \u00e7dolloj stigmatizimi, bullizmi, dhune fizike e psikologjike dhe bullizmin virtual.
\n\u2022 T\u00eb mos tolerohet asnj\u00eb lloj forme e dhun\u00ebs, sado e leht\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb, duke e marr\u00eb seriozisht parandalimin, e jo n\u00eb variantin e padituris\u00eb: \u201chajt se f\u00ebmij\u00eb jan\u00eb\u201d!
\n\u2022 Sjelljet e pap\u00ebrshtatshme t\u00eb nd\u00ebshkohen me mekanizmat e parapar\u00eb t\u00eb shkollave, t\u00eb zbatohen ato, e jo t\u00eb shp\u00ebrfillen e m\u00ebnjanohen.<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb hiqen fotografit\u00eb dhe \u00e7dolloj identifikimi i t\u00eb miturave n\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn publike, sepse jo vet\u00ebm me ligj e kod etik, por nuk lejohet identifikimi publik as sipas teoris\u00eb s\u00eb etiketimit n\u00eb kriminalistik\u00eb, psikologji dhe sociologji, sipas s\u00eb cil\u00ebs, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm akti ai q\u00eb e b\u00ebn dik\u00eb \u201ckriminel\u201d, por reaksioni shoq\u00ebror dhe institucional ndaj atij akti. Kur nj\u00eb person etiketohet si \u201cdelikuent\u201d, \u201ckriminel\u201d, \u201ci dhunsh\u00ebm\u201d etj., kjo etiket\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet pjes\u00eb e identitetit t\u00eb tij dhe ta shtyj\u00eb drejt sjelljeve t\u00eb m\u00ebtejshme kriminale. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, etiketimi mund t\u00eb forcoj\u00eb dhe institucionalizoj\u00eb devijimin n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta ndaloj\u00eb. Prandaj, kjo teori ka ndikuar n\u00eb \u00e7do ligj t\u00eb shteteve, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur sa ma shum\u00eb etiketimin, ve\u00e7mas publik e online, sepse kjo i fut t\u00eb miturat n\u00eb \u201crole\u201d: po na thon\u00eb se jemi t\u00eb dhunshme, po na etiketojn\u00eb, hajde po e luajm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rol dhe t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb personalitetit. Pra, ngjarja ka ndodhur, edhe q\u00ebllimi dhe synimi kryesor duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb parandalimi i \u00e7far\u00ebdo sjelljeje recidiviste nga t\u00eb miturat n\u00eb fjal\u00eb, por edhe si mesazh p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
\u2022 T\u00eb ken\u00eb kujdes prind\u00ebrit me manipulimin emocional nga vet\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, sepse manipulimi emocional mund t\u00eb zhvillohet edhe pse f\u00ebmija mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb faz\u00ebn e pubertetit, e ve\u00e7mas t\u00eb ken\u00eb kujdes prind\u00ebrit p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxitur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb reflektuar p\u00ebr empatin\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe pendimin p\u00ebr sjelljen antisociale, qoft\u00eb aksidentale, apo e llojit tjet\u00ebr edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Mizore, por t\u00eb mitura (Nj\u00eb qasje profesionale, n\u00eb holl\u00ebsi, pas ngjarjes shokuese n\u00eb Gjilan) Shkruan: Avni Rudaku T\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit, n\u00eb raport me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, ndahen n\u00eb tri kategori kryesore: tipa social\u00eb (t\u00eb shoq\u00ebruesh\u00ebm me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, nuk rrin\u00eb dot vet\u00ebm), tipa asocial\u00eb (t\u00eb pashoq\u00ebruesh\u00ebm, nuk ndjejn\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nd\u00ebrveprim social, m\u00eb t\u00eb mbyllur nga […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":211217,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-211216","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-opinion"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/211216","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=211216"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/211216\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":211218,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/211216\/revisions\/211218"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/211217"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=211216"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=211216"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=211216"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}