Si e shohim ne grat\u00eb, gruan sot?
\nA e ka mb\u00ebshtetjen ton\u00eb gruaja sot?
\nPse shpesh\u00eb i mohohen t\u00eb drejtat e saj qen\u00ebsore?
\nShkruan: Selvete Abdullahu<\/p>\n
Gruaja n\u00ebp\u00ebr etapa t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb historis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb par\u00eb, trajtuar dhe perceptuar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme. Jo shpesh her\u00eb ajo e ka marr\u00eb pozit\u00ebn dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb vler\u00ebsuar si duhet n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. Shum\u00eb her\u00eb vlerat dhe afinitetet e saj nuk jan\u00eb marr\u00eb parasysh dhe personaliteti i saj ka mbetur n\u00ebn hije.<\/p>\n
Duke i mohuar t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn e fjal\u00ebs s\u00eb saj n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb ndier e anashkaluar dhe e shtypur. N\u00ebp\u00ebr periudha t\u00eb ndryshme historike gruaja me gjith\u00eb potencialin dhe pun\u00ebn e saj ka l\u00ebn\u00eb gjurm\u00eb t\u00eb pa shlyeshme n\u00eb histori. Rolet e saj si luft\u00ebtare, profesioniste, mjeke, n\u00ebn\u00eb sakrifikuese, pun\u00ebtore etj i kan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb asaj nj\u00eb imazh t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyer n\u00eb koh\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ajo me pun\u00ebn e saj i ka dh\u00ebn\u00eb vet\u00ebs shum\u00eb role t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira dhe t\u00eb shum\u00ebfishta gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb saj, por a jan\u00eb vler\u00ebsuar sa duhet pozitat e merituara n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb kosovare?!<\/p>\n
N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn e larg\u00ebt njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb vendin ton\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb shum\u00eb subjektiv n\u00eb trajtimin e t\u00eb drejtave t\u00eb grave, por me zhvillimin e shkenc\u00ebs dhe teknologjis\u00eb populli shqiptar\u00eb ka filluar t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijesohet dhe t\u00eb avancohet n\u00eb raport me objektivitetin karshi gruas dhe meritave e saj.<\/p>\n
Roli i gruas n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri \u00ebsht\u00eb i pa z\u00ebvend\u00ebsuesh\u00ebm dhe ky rol duhet t\u00eb ngitet n\u00eb piedestalin m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb. Ve\u00e7 kur e kemi parasysh gruan si shtyll\u00eb familjare t\u00eb cil\u00ebs i duhet brenda dit\u00ebs t\u00eb kryej pun\u00eb t\u00eb ndyshme n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe jasht\u00eb saj duke mos harruar edhe azhuritetet shkencore n\u00eb proces.<\/p>\n
Gruaja sot \u00ebsht\u00eb lidere, artiste, piktore, poete, politikane, inxhiniere, biznesmene etj.<\/p>\n
Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb gruaja kosovare sot \u00ebsht\u00eb profesioniste. Ajo ka punuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur reultate t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqshme. Ajo ka nd\u00ebrtuar identitetin e saj dhe karrier\u00ebn nd\u00ebr vite, prandaj \u00ebsht\u00eb krahas mashkullit n\u00eb shum\u00eb aspekte.<\/p>\n
Ne grat\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jemi krenare p\u00ebr arritjet e gjinis\u00eb son\u00eb.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrse vall\u00eb t\u00eb mos i p\u00ebrkrahim grat\u00eb e zonja, grat\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb ambicie p\u00ebr t\u00eb ecur tutje me mundin dhe pun\u00ebn e tyre?<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse ne nuk e p\u00ebrkrahim nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn at\u00ebher\u00eb kush presim te na p\u00ebrkrah\u00eb?<\/p>\n
Grat\u00eb e zonja jan\u00eb n\u00eb dobi t\u00eb familjes dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, prandaj duhet t\u2019i mb\u00ebshtesim moralisht q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi ur\u00eb lidh\u00ebse dhe motivuese p\u00ebr nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse rrethanat tona nuk n\u2019a mund\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u2019a mb\u00ebshtesim financiarisht nj\u00eb grua pun\u00ebtore at\u00ebher\u00eb s\u00eb paku t\u00eb jemi motivuese p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Asgj\u00eb nuk n\u2019a kushton t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb mira me dik\u00eb q\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e meriton. Thjesht\u00eb t\u00eb kemi ndjenj\u00ebn e respektit dhe nacionalitetit e jo ndjenj\u00ebn e diskualifikimit dhe demotivimit. Kjo do t\u00eb ishte shkat\u00ebrruese p\u00ebr pal\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr e n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast gruan,<\/p>\n
Fatkeq\u00ebsisht shpesh gjendem mes nj\u00eb realiteti t\u00eb hidhur ku p\u00ebrmes formave t\u00eb ndryshme rrethanore disa nga grat\u00eb t\u00eb prirura nga inate e xhelozi t\u00eb rastit d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyre indirekte p\u00ebrmes rrjeteve sociale apo formave tjera q\u00eb zgjedhin vet grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Krejt kjo si pasoj\u00eb e nj\u00eb rivaliteti te krijuar brenda bot\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre personale. Garat e disa grave t\u00eb pa arsyeshme jan\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuese p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin ton\u00eb. N\u00ebse nuk arrijm\u00eb ta pranojm\u00eb nj\u00eb realitet t\u00eb krijuar me q\u00ebndrime t\u00eb justifikueshme ndaj disa dukurive q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb proces dhe kan\u00eb konotacion negativ ne kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb arrijm\u00eb t\u00eb krijojm\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjidhje t\u00eb drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr situat\u00ebn e krijuar t\u00eb gruas bashk\u00eb me pozit\u00ebn e saj.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse nuk d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb ta pranojm\u00eb realitetin n\u00eb raport me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt at\u00ebher\u00eb mos te jemi gjykuese t\u00eb pa justifikueshme dhe d\u00ebmtuese t\u00eb tjerave q\u00eb punojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbushur d\u00ebshirat tona keqdash\u00ebse. Thjesht\u00eb sjellja jon\u00eb ndaj te tjer\u00ebve tregon pasqyr\u00ebn e edukat\u00ebs dhe kultur\u00ebs son\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Un\u00eb gruan e shoh si mike dhe bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtore e jo assesi si rivale. Secila prej nesh e ka vendin e vet n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb pun\u00ebs dhe afiniteteve q\u00eb ka dhe asnj\u00ebra nuk jemi cenim p\u00ebr tjetr\u00ebn. Prandaj, nuk kemi nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb garojm\u00eb duke shkelur mbi fatkeq\u00ebsin\u00eb e tjetr\u00ebs. Garat jan\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebseardhura n\u00ebse b\u00ebhen direkt me pun\u00eb dhe angazhim e jo me forma t\u00eb ulta intriguese.<\/p>\n
Kot, grat\u00eb i luftojn\u00eb grat\u00eb p\u00ebr interesa te veta personale sepse asesi nuk arrijn\u00eb te mohojn\u00eb vlerat dhe pun\u00ebn e grave meritore. Grat\u00eb e tilla vet\u00ebm e tregojn\u00eb nivelin e tyre. Lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt qysh n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e lasht\u00eb filozofi grek Sokrati \u00ebsht\u00eb fokusuar n\u00eb edukimin e vetvetes dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve duke u bazuar n\u00eb parimet e vet\u00ebnjohjes, vet\u00ebkontrollit dhe vet\u00ebp\u00ebrmbajtjes ku thot\u00eb: \u201cFol t\u00eb t\u00eb njoh\u201d dhe \u201cT\u00eb njoh\u00ebsh vetveten\u201d. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fush\u00eb ka shum\u00eb gra q\u00eb e posedojn\u00eb aspektin e par\u00eb dhe t\u00eb dyt\u00eb dhe jan\u00eb koshiente p\u00ebr gjendjen e tyre, por nuk e menaxhojn\u00eb si duhet aspektin e vet\u00ebp\u00ebrmbajtjes, prandaj vlojn\u00eb si qum\u00ebshti.<\/p>\n
Pa marr\u00eb parasysh divergjencave q\u00eb mund t\u00eb kemi ne grat\u00eb nj\u00ebra me tjetr\u00ebn gjuha q\u00eb p\u00ebrdorim qoft\u00eb verbale ose jo verbale ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe n\u00eb qasjen ton\u00eb ndaj \u00e7\u00ebshtjeve t\u00eb caktuara. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb form\u00eb nd\u00ebrtohen perceptimet e tona rreth problematikave dhe individ\u00ebve. Populli thot\u00eb: ( Fshati q\u00eb duket s\u2019do kallauz).<\/p>\n
Mesazhi im p\u00ebr fund \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb askush nuk ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb te cenoj integritetin e tjetrit p\u00ebr asnj\u00eb arsye, prandaj apeloj te gjitha shtresat e grave prej amvis\u00ebs, pun\u00ebtores, intelektuales q\u00eb t\u2019i thirrin mendjes dhe te krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb kohezion mes vete sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb interes t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm shoq\u00ebror.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse brenda zemr\u00ebs son\u00eb ushqejm\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e mir\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe respektit kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb mbetemi n\u00eb hak t\u00eb askujt dhe dit\u00ebt do t\u2019i kalojm\u00eb me buz\u00ebqeshje.<\/p>\n
\u201cGrua b\u00ebhu motiv p\u00ebr gruan\u201d<\/p>\n
\/autorja \u00ebsht\u00eb psikologe organizative dhe sociale\/<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Si e shohim ne grat\u00eb, gruan sot? A e ka mb\u00ebshtetjen ton\u00eb gruaja sot? Pse shpesh\u00eb i mohohen t\u00eb drejtat e saj qen\u00ebsore? Shkruan: Selvete Abdullahu Gruaja n\u00ebp\u00ebr etapa t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb historis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb par\u00eb, trajtuar dhe perceptuar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme. Jo shpesh her\u00eb ajo e ka marr\u00eb pozit\u00ebn dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb vler\u00ebsuar si duhet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":33227,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-33226","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lajme"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33226","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=33226"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33226\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/33227"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=33226"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=33226"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radiostargjilan.com\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=33226"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}